Elspeth Pitman
@ElspethPitman
Early Years Consultant
Should we give
children the opportunity to choose their own key person?
Recently I had the pleasure of going to Tanzania for a week
to help run a children’s programme at a Conference for Missionaries. We, 5
volunteers, had the privilege of entertaining 27 children ranging between the
ages of 12 months to 14 years. Due to my Early Years background and Norland
training I took on the responsibility for making sure our five youngest
children, all under the age of 3 years, were well cared for.
This experience gave me the opportunity to reflect on some
of the best practice we at Norland College promote throughout our training. The
two areas of best practice which I found most useful during my time in Tanzania
were, careful observation of each individual child’s needs and regular
reflection on the care and environment provided. Both of these areas of best
practice proved to be invaluable throughout my week in Tanzania to help provide
the best possible care we could under the circumstances.
Transitions, especially short terms ones, are particularly
hard for young children as they are often not fully aware of what is going on
and why they are being left in a different situation with adults they have not
met before. The situation reminded me of a quote by Elinor Goldschmied (2001,
p. 37) “We can never remind ourselves too often that a child, particularly a
very young child and almost totally dependent one, is the only person in the
nursery who cannot understand why he is there.”
With this reflection in mind, and bearing in mind the
children had never met us before, whilst I at first said I would act as key
person for the youngest of children, we decided that we would initially keep all
the children in one room together to see how they settled. Our initial instinct
proved to be invaluable; the youngest of our children would often only settle
if sitting right next to, or even on the same chair as, their sibling. Being in
the same room all together also meant that the youngest children could settle
or be comforted by the adult they felt most comfortable with – in effect choosing
their own key person. The beneficial effect of this was clearly seen in a
little boy of 18 months who, from day 1, would only settle with our only male
volunteer. We facilitated this choice of key person for this little boy as much
as possible and by the 4th and final day of the programme we all
celebrated the confidence this little boy had developed. Helping this little
boy build a secure attachment to one adult helped him to feel more secure in
his whole surrounding and to explore and play independently with all of the
adults in the room.
It is important as an Early Years Practitioner and Nanny we make
sure that through the best practice of careful observation we are supporting
young children through times of transition as sensitively as possible. Recent
research (
National
Scientific Council on the Developing Child, 2014) has shown that high
levels of the hormone Cortisol, produced through stressful situations, can
initially reduce young children’s ability to play, learn and develop. Whilst we
cannot remove all stresses on young children, as this is part of life, we
should endeavour to reduce it as much as possible to allow play, learning and
development to flourish in each individual child in our care.
This was something which I certainly observed
to be true with the little boy in our care during just 1 week.
The key person practice is not uncommon in nursery settings,
but it did make me reflect upon whether there is always the facilitation for a
young child to choose their own key person if it would benefit the child? This
does not mean that any one practitioner is better than another, but as
individuals we do gravitate more towards some people than others. Parents who
are choosing their nanny and in effect key person for their children might also
consider the Norland recommendation of having the nanny spend a day (or more) with
the children and family as part of the interviewing process. This will provide
the opportunity for the parents and nanny not only to see whether they will be
happy working together, but also the opportunity for the parents to see whether
the children warm to the particular nanny’s personality and style to fully
allow the ‘key person’ relationship, and therefore the children, to thrive.